Don’t let the board exam results decide your fate!
We all make mistakes, of various degrees all through our lives. Nothing wrong with that. But we believe that when we discuss our challenges in a neutral way we are able to surmount them in a mature practical manner. Board exam results bring immense anxiety to all of us. Every year thousands of students appear for it and there are always a few who are not able to make it past the passing score. At this moment, we have two choices either to give up or sit down and carefully analyse what needs to be done. Let us help you in doing that:
Phase 1: Accept your mistake:
Here are some genuinely valid excuses that you can hang on to:
- I worked hard but I went blank in the examination hall.
- I was distracted by all the mass copying going on.
- There were a lot of questions that were not in the syllabus.
- I fared well in the prelims and my scores have shocked me.
- The person who corrected the board exam paper was in a foul mood. Just my bad luck.
- I fell sick just before the board exam.
- A family member was sick and I could not focus on my academics.
- Add your own list of excuses here.
All the above and your own list is…. Well – just a list of excuses that you use to justify your low scores in grade 12. No one can eat three meals in a single sitting. No one can cram a year’s worth of knowledge in 15 days. The simple gentle fact remains – that that you did not prepare consistently and conscientiously for the exams. You did not take them seriously enough.
All your teachers and parents prepared you for all the different kinds of challenges that you were likely to face in that new examination hall.
So, instead of going on a defensive mode, simply openly accept the mistake that you made and seek the support of your parents, teachers and friends/relatives.
Once you accept the fact that you made a mistake, all the criticism coming your way will slowly stop automatically.
Phase 2: Confront your fears.
- You are now scared…….very scared.
- You don’t know how to deal with your fears.
- You want to hide in your room and cry yourself asleep.
- The angry words of your parents hurt you to the very core.
- Go hug your mother and weep your heart out and confide all your fears to her.
- You have unknowingly immaturely created a hurdle for yourself and your parents are equally anxious about the predicament that you have landed yourself in.
- Be genuinely wondering how they are going to shell out that huge sum of money to get you admission in any line in any college in the ‘management quota.’
- Scared, confused and deeply disappointed too.
- Have shelled out a huge sum of money for your specialized coaching.
- Have done everything that they possibly could to ensure that you scored well in the 12th
- Be anxious because they have to bear the financial burden that is going to be involved to get you admission somewhere……anywhere.
Phase 3: Allow the emotional turmoil to settle down:
- You have hurt them with your non-performance.
- They have to face the consequences and have to deal with a completely new set of problems.
- It will take a lot of time for all this turmoil to settle down.
- I beseech, sincerely beseech both parties to give yourselves ample time to accept the challenge.
Parents and youngsters reading this article – Don’t let a mark sheet decide your destiny. Life does not begin and end with board exam grades. Yes, they are very important and can surely lead to a better quality of life down the road. But that surely does not imply that students who score low grades are no gooders. Life pans out differently for them and all we, as parents can do for them is to stand by them stoically when they need us the most.