What can you do to make your child compassionate?
In this fast paced society, the human values like kindness, compassion, and mercy are fast becoming a rarity. However, as human beings, such holistic feelings are actually the assets for us. So, more than ever, the world is in a desperate need for these values. The least you could do is to raise a child who is equipped with such skills. In fact, if every parent would start raising his child to be compassionate towards other sections of the society, it will have a tremendous positive impact on the entire society. Here are a few ways to raise such compassionate children who value humanity over everything else:
Be an ideal role model
Parents play a role model for their children. They mimic the behavior of their own parents. So when you yell at your maid over a small mistake your children think that it is alright to yell at the maid. As they grow up, they start treating their subordinates in a less dignified manner.
So, it is very important to treat everyone with dignity and respect, irrespective of their rank or social status. It will make your child realize the importance of fair treatment. You should also treat your child with equal attention and talk to them in a dignified manner. Allowing them to actively participate in some important conversation relevant to them can actually make them appreciate the feeling of offering equal status to people without discrimination. For instance, you may invite them to engage actively in discussions like scheduling Sunday activities or outing,
Make them empathetic
One of the strongest ways to cultivate compassion in your children is to make them feel empathy with others. You can occasionally take them to places like orphanages, underprivileged sections of the society and animal shelters and actively contribute to support them. If possible, allow your child to offer the support. For example, if you want to donate, tell your child to offer the envelope to the manager. Likewise, if you want to take care of the patients of a public hospital, then bring your child along with you, encourage him to talk to the patients, play with them if possible and offer them some soothing words. This kind of direct engagement can deeply impact the innocent mind of the child and allow him to grow as a concerned human being with empathy towards others.
Don’t allow them to misbehave
Some parents literally enjoy being teased by their kids. They would not stop their child from punching in their stomach or pulling their hair. Instead, they would encourage or even laugh with their children. An oft-repeated reason is that as they were not able to enjoy their childhood due to their strict parents, they want their child to enjoy it to the fullest. Little do they know that such behavior will eventually promote violent feelings in the child that would hamper his growth as a compassionate being. Such treatment will convey the message that teasing others for your own fun is alright and before you know your child might even start bullying his classmates just for fun. So, such behavior should be curbed firmly. You can sweetly yet firmly stop your child from teasing you, explaining him clearly that why such behavior is unacceptable. If he doesn’t understand that way then don’t refrain from admonishing. It may seem harsh but it’s the best way to nip the habit in the bud.
Correct your mistakes instantly
It may not always be possible for parents to behave ideally all the time. Sometimes you might be too stressed after a hectic work schedule to be nice to your housemaid. There’s nothing to feel guilty about this. However, as soon as you realize that you have been rude to another person, you should not feel shy asking for an apology. So, if you think you treated your maid rudely then you can actually call her and apologize for your behavior. Likewise, if you think that you were unreasonably harsh with the waiter over the issue of extremely spicy food, then you should instantly offer the apologies. It will teach the child that he should not shy from apologizing when he is at the mistake.