4 simple and effective ways to develop EQ in your child
While many of the parents are quite concerned about the IQ of their children, few pay attention to their EQ or Emotional Quotient. Research shows that the children with high EQ are able to attract success that exceeds their academic qualification.
Emotional Quotient means identifying and understanding the emotions in oneself and others and managing them in the most appropriate manner. It not only allows an individual to handle difficult situations effectively but also encourages them to find and practice best solutions. So it is a great idea to identify and enhance the EQ of your child. Here are a few tips for that:
One of the best ways to introduce your child to EQ is to engage them in relevant games. For example, while enjoying lunch in the garden during family picnic trip; you can play a bottle game: all the members should form a circle while still sitting and place an empty bottle in the middle. Now spin the bottle and see where it points (the bottle’s mouth). You may ask that person about how would s/he respond to a particular life situation. Design some relevant, comprehensible and insightful question for your child like “How would you react if your friend hits a student or would you tell the examiner if you observe that your best friend is cheating from your sheet?” It will help you to identify the EQ needs of your child.
Another way to make your child acquainted with EQ is to offer them the expressive toys displaying different emotions like a happy bear, a stubborn rabbit, a bossy cat or a scared mouse. Ensure that such toys display the best expressions to accentuate their emotions. Tell your child about such toys in clear, comprehensible terms and try to ask for their reactions. For example: “See this grinning bear. How happy he is! But what happened to this lion? Why is it looking in such a terrifying manner, I think he is angry? Okay which one do you like: the smiling bear or the angry lion?” The answers to such questions can help you to understand the inclination of your child. Those who value happiness would go for the bear while the angry Lion will find fans among those with bossy nature.
Meaningful conversations with their favorite characters
Engaging your children in a meaning conversation while watching a cartoon movie or reading together can also help you to know better about his behavioral and emotional status. For example, while watching Jungle Book movie you can ask them about what they feel about Mowgli. Encourage them to dig deeper into the feelings of characters like: “Why do you think that Mowgli is so close to Baghira?” Likewise while reading a tale together you can take some little pauses at key points and ask your child about the intentions of a character. You can also talk about a sharp or abrupt change in the behavior of any character like “Why do you think Tom, the famous thief, quietly returned the gold coins to the old man instead of taking them to his house?” Such conversation will make him further understand the intentions of different characters. It will sow the seeds of understanding human beings.
Playing traditional games with peers
One of the most natural ways for your child to be engaged with other human beings is through the means of playing. Unfortunately, the technical intrusion has limited the scope for a child to play games that promote community feeling. They are so engaged in playing games like Nintendo that they don’t have the time to play games like snakes and ladders (on board) with buddies. In fact, the buddy is also engaged playing Pokémon or other similar games. However, as a parent, you can actually encourage your child to play games physically with their buddies that would enhance their EQ level. But you don’t have to stop him from playing video games to engage him into playing traditional games with his friends. It would rather make them despise such games. Ideally, you can offer him a versatile schedule: playing video games on weekends and traditional games on weekdays. You can also make his traditional games schedule a grand affair by inviting his best friends to or house and allowing everyone to enjoy their favorite snacks while playing the traditional games. This practice will make your child look forward to playing such games with friends. Needless to say that these games not only enhance the social skills bit also help your child to evolve emotionally.